19 Instructions For Life

1. Take into account that great love and great achievement involve great risk.
2. When you lose dont lose the lesson
3. Follow the three R's: => Respect for self => Respect for others => Responsibility for all your actions
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly
6. Dont let a little dispute injure a great relationship
7. When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it
8. Spend some time alone every day
9. Open your arms to change, but dont let go of your values
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer
11. Live a good, honorable life, then when you get older and think back you'll be able to enjoy it a second time
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life
13. In disagreements with loved ones deal only with current situation. Dont bring up the past
14. Share your knowledge it is a way to achieve immortality
15. Be gentle with the earth
16. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before
17. Remember that the best relationship is one which you love for each other exceeds your need for each other
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it
19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon

10 Reasons Y U Should leave office at 6pm..quite true...‏

When You Say Nothing At All

Right now I am listening to 'When You Say Nothing At All' by Ronan Keating!

This song reminds me many things, and there is a feeling that can't be describe by words when I listen to it. Because that time I was in Melbourne watching the movie, the scene when they seating on the park, I like that part. I like Julia Robert, although she has a quite big mouth when she smiles, but it looks sexy! I like her tall figure and sweet face. She also reminds me the Pretty Woman.

The feeling of staying in Melburne is very different, I am a bit home (home huh? yeeh I dont live there and dont have a home, but was there for years, could consider 2nd home la he he) sick right now yeeee..
I wanna go back Australiaaaaaaaa........

When You Say Nothing At All lyrics
It's amazing how you can speak right to my heartWithout saying a word, you can light up the dark. Try as I may I could never explain. What I hear when you don't say a thing

[Chorus:]
The smile on your face let's me know that you need me. There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me. The touch of your hand says you'll catch me whenever I fall. You say it best when you say nothing at all

[Verse 2:]All day long I can hear people talking out loud. But when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd. Try as they may they can never define. What's being said between your heart and mine
[Chorus twice]

The Wisdom In Hot Chocolate

A group of graduates, well established in their careers, were talking at a reunion and decided to go visit their old university professor, now retired.

During their visit, the conversation turned to complaints about stress in their work and lives.

Offering his guests hot chocolate, the professor went into kitchen and returned with a large pot of hot chocolate and an assortment of cups, porcelain, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite, telling them to help themselves to the hot chocolate.

When they all had a cup of hot chocolate in hand, the professor said:

'Notice that all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones.

While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

The cup that you're drinking from adds nothing to the quality of the hot chocolate. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.

What all of you really wanted was hot chocolate, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups.

And then you began eyeing each other's cups.

Now consider this:

Life is hot chocolate, your job, money and position in society are the cups.

They are just tools to hold and contain life.

The cup you have does not define, nor change the quality of life you have.

Sometimes by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the hot chocolate God has provided us.

God makes the hot chocolate, man chooses the cups.

The happiest people don't have the best of everything.

They just make the best of everything that they have.

Live simply.

Love generously.

Care deeply.

Speak kindly.

And enjoy your hot chocolate.

Times Fly Fast

Just back from CNY holiday. Times really fly fast, it was just yesterday preparing everything to welcome once a year joyous occasion Chinese New Year. Happy feeling, looking forward to reunion with family and meeting old friends and other relatives, imagining the happiest moment of CNY has just passed.

Everything goes back to normal, students have to go back to school, working people go back to office, housewife go back to normal housework cores.

2008 has gone, hoping all the good news will happen in 2009. Let's work hard together like the 'Niu' year for a better tomorrow.

Knowing how to be thankful, be contented to what we have today, we will become a more happier person in the world.

Things To Avoid Before Chinese New Year!

What are the things people won't do when nearing Chinese New Year? And the reason of avoiding so is because it will bring bad luck for the new year to come. Everyone wants to start a new year with a good luck, so that they will be in good luck for the whole year to come.

Well, about this topic, I can only think of a few reasons. Please add more if you wish on the comment.

-I guess people will be unwilling to pay respect to someone who has just died.

-Visiting someone at the hospital, because they don't want to get sick themselves, just in case they catch some disease from hospital.

-Avoid from getting sick, of course everyone will want to enjoy the one and only once a year celebration season of the new year. Everyone will take good care of themselves. I would suggest everyone to drink more water and do more exercise.

-A more traditional person will avoid dark colour clothes.

Do you have anymore reason why people avoid doing somethings or not willing to do somethings before Chinese New Year?

Check out What will most people do before Chinese New Year!

Do You Know What Will Most People Do Before CNY Comes?

What do people do before CNY-Chinese New Year:

-Ta Sau Cu - A total cleaning up of the house. Not just mopping the floor, but the whole house must be cleaned from the ceiling to the wall, toilet, cupboard, wardrobe, everything must be cleaned. Some people even repainting the whole house or getting new furniture.

-Making or buying new year cakes. The love letter stick cracker, in my hometown, they call it kue rokok (kue means cake, rokok means cigarette, as it looks like one). Not forgetting the pineapple filling tart. Pineapple tart means 'Wang' bringing prosperous. One more traditional cake is kue bangkit, made from coconut.

-Other then preparing cakes, we chinese people like to add some sweets and some nuts to serve guests when they come.

-Everything we wear must be new on the new year, from underwear, clothes, shocks, shoes, even new hair style, not just new style, hair must be cut, if not it will bring bad luck. Everything new means good luck will come to us in a new year.

-I only learned this when I stayed in Singapore, it's to prepare 2 tangerines when visiting family or friends and exchange the tangerines, I have no ideas what this means, I just follow the crowds ha ha.

-Not forgetting, the 'HongPao' (red package) for the kids. And only married couple can give out hong pao to kids, singles can't give hong pao, because it will closed up their ying yan (faith), then they will never ever got married. I am not sure if this one is real, just heard from old saying.

-On new year's eve, the whole family will normally stay up until morning, it was said that if kids can stay up till morning, they will bring longevity to their parents. Normally people staying up until morning, because they will do praying ceremony to God at around midnight, and after that they will gather together having party or chatting like reunion.

-Speaking of reunion, I guess most of us who live in this busy life style can only do it once a year which is reunion dinner on the new year's eve night. As for me, staying in Singapore can hardly get together with parents, so we will go back to our hometown to have reunion dinner with family once a year.

-Some people love to wear red on new year, as it brings good luck. But recently I read something about feng sui saying different animal year's born people will have different luck. For example, if I was born in snake year, I have to wear something green in ox year, or else. So not only wearing red can bring good luck as almost all Chinese people's like colour the red. I guess this is how the feng sui master make money.

-Last but not least, people like to decorate their house with flower and other decoration like something has ox on it. Depends on what animal year is the new year.

These are all I know. I guess different people's bringing up background might be different, I will be glad if someone wants to add on something more here on the comments. You are really welcome to write.

Kong Xi Fa Cai, Xin Nian Kui Lek.
Happy Chinese Niu Year 2009
Wishing everyone a Prosperous Niu Year, Happy and Good Health.

想做的事就去做‏

「不要人在天堂，錢在銀行」～要及時行樂喔！共勉之！

文╱大前研一
「沒有人每天釣魚、打高爾夫球。如果每天都做這些事，其實是很痛苦的。打高爾夫球、釣魚和旅行之所以快樂，是因為這些事情並非日常之事。」～～大前研一

很多人都有一大堆計劃留到退休後去做，但到了那時候，現在想來快樂的事，屆時已不快樂了。想做就馬上去做，儘管不景氣，這仍是大前研一的諍言。

我說「人生不妨繞路走」，讀者或許不知道什麼是繞路。我就試著從我接觸過的多位經營者的（痛苦）小巧引出我的看法吧!

過去30年間，我至少和一千位經營者共事過。正確的數字我沒算過，但是一年30個人，30年下來應該有這個數目吧。我所謂的經營者，都是社長（總經理）、會長（董事長）等事業成功的企業人士，也都是孜孜矻矻忙著賺錢的人。

這些日本企業領袖多半愛談退休後的生活。有人說想每天打高爾夫球悠悠哉哉的日子，有人想回到面臨瀨戶內海的美麗故鄉天天釣魚，有人想和老妻帶著珍愛的相機環遊世界，有人只希望含飴弄孫、忘掉工作，還有人夢想參加非營利組織（NPO）到東南亞當技術指導，有人甚至想在郊外蓋間房子晴耕雨讀，或是長住澳洲。

他們年老後的夢想五花八門，可謂百人百樣，但只有一點我非常確定：他們之中沒有一個人完成夢想。為什麼呢？

首先，他們熬不到圓滿退休，最近半途失意退職、悄悄過日子的案例尤其多。其中多半是公司裡發生了意想不到的狀況，恰巧位在高層的他們，只好引咎辭職。另一個原因是位居高層的時間太久、積勞過度而猝逝。

同樣地，歷任會長、董事會顧問、顧問、最高顧問、監察人等職位，一過了80歲，便被送進老人院的情形也很多。他們在60歲上下時侃侃而談退休後的希望和夢想，但是一過了70歲，卻突然開始想做「終身經營者」，怎麼也不肯退休。那些能幸運退休的情況又如何呢？好像也有問題。沒有人每天釣魚、打高爾夫球。每天做這些事其實很痛苦。打高爾夫球、釣魚和旅行之所以快樂，是因為這些事情並非日常之事。

每天打高爾夫球得找到球伴，每天和同一個對手打也無趣，況且往往很快就累了。人上了年紀，打球的分數增減也很有限。只有當場地和對手都不同時，才會覺得有趣。每天要做到這樣，似乎很難。我在美國佛羅里達常看到退休老人打高爾夫球，他們幾乎是為了健康而打、為了防止老人痴呆而打，讓人感覺不到退休前所期待的「樂趣」。

釣魚則更慘。釣到的魚得有人高興吃掉。老夫妻沒那份食慾；老伴每天表現出最大限度的歡喜，其實都是裝出來的。釣魚必須有人樂享成果。如果還是社長任內，因為是偶一為之，擅長逢迎的職員會起鬨作樂，爭相討魚。孫子也會討好說：「爺爺好厲害哦！」如果住在市區，分送鄰居也皆大歡喜。但是在瀨戶內海的窮村釣魚，和漁夫沒有什麼不同。在只有老人的村子裡每天釣魚，一點也不快樂。本來還有這種夢想的經營者，現在都已打消念頭。童年時釣魚是很快樂，當社長時偶爾去釣魚也很快樂。可是真正退休後天天釣魚，就不是這麼回事了。

釣魚則更慘。釣到的魚得有人高興吃掉。老夫妻沒那份食慾；老伴每天表現出最大限度的歡喜，其實都是裝出來的。釣魚必須有人樂享成果。如果還是社長任內，因為是偶一為之，擅長逢迎的職員會起鬨作樂，爭相討魚。孫子也會討好說：「爺爺好厲害哦！」如果住在市區，分送鄰居也皆大歡喜。但是在瀨戶內海的窮村釣魚，和漁夫沒有什麼不同。在只有老人的村子裡每天釣魚，一點也不快樂。本來還有這種夢想的經營者，現在都已打消念頭。童年時釣魚是很快樂，當社長時偶爾去釣魚也很快樂。可是真正退休後天天釣魚，就不是這麼回事了。

我的結論只有一句，這輩子都不要說：「我以後要怎樣怎樣……」。

我的建議是，如果有「以後」想做的事，現在，沒錯，就請現在去做！
想做的時候正當其時，沒有延後的理由。

現在覺得快樂的事，上了年紀以後，不一定覺得快樂。
更積極地說，
現在就做覺得快樂的事，才能學會年老也覺得快樂的方法，
退休後就能成為真正的玩家，快樂地生活。
～摘自：想做的事就去做！（作者：大前研一）

9 Crucial Tips‏ That Might Save Your Life!

Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or love one's life.
Crucial Because of recent abductions in daylight hours,refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation... This is for you, and for you to share with your wife, your children, everyone you know. After reading these 9 crucial tips , forward them to someone you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR , LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
5. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it . As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
6. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage: A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor , and in the back seat
7. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door . Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. C..) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
8. 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
9. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably ! in a zig -zag pattern!
10. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP ! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better to be safe than sorry.

Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or a loved one's life.